Have you ever felt like you have been done so wrong that it seemed impossible to let it go and forgive? Has people crucified you behind your back, stolen from you, misused you, lied about you and just simply put, betrayed you? Maybe it was a former spouse, friend, business partner or family member. Perhaps it was a trusted pastor. If you’re a pastor, it may have been someone in your congregation. We have all been through this at some level in our lives. People will hurt others and they will continue to do so as long as humanity exists on this earth. As for the Christian, what makes matters worse for them is that it is often other Christians who do the most damage to them.
It can be difficult to forgive those who have done things to us but if we do not, we will get stuck! Our destiny, or the fulfillment of it, is dependent on our ability to let things go and give it to God. I know this isn’t always easy but hear me out, please. I want to help you to overcome and get moving again. I am writing this from experience not just head knowledge.
First of all, we must accept that God is our vindicator, not us. The temptation is to fight for the right to be heard. We want people to see that we were treated badly and perhaps wrongly accused. When we take on the job of vindicating ourselves God has to remove his hand from the situation until we are willing to give it up and allow Him to do what needs to be done. Remember, in God’s Kingdom, when we are busy working to make things happen in our own strength, God will rest until we have ran out of strength. When we are resting and trusting God, He is busy working on our behalf. Never forget what Romans 8:31 tells us, “If God be for us who can be against us?” We all love the reality of this promise but we must remember it also applies to our betrayers as well. Knowing this may make it less exciting but extremely important for us to accept. Without understanding the power behind the reality of this verse toward our betrayers we will never position ourselves for God to vindicate us. We will stay stuck!
Why would God still be for the person who came against you? It’s simple, for the same reason that He is for you. Look at this verse in its full context.
“What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare His Own Son, but delivered Him up for us all, how shall He not with Him also freely give us all things? Who shall bring a charge against God’s elect? It is God who justifies. Who is he who condemns? It is Christ who died, and furthermore is also risen, who is even at the right hand of God, who also makes intercession for us.”
The reason why God is for you and those who did you wrong at the same time is because Jesus died, rose and justified both groups of people. God is not for you because you do everything right or because you don’t do things wrong. He is for you because of what Jesus did on the cross and is making intercession for you. That word “intercession” means advocate. Jesus is your advocate with the Father, justifying you, therefore, God is always for you and even your enemies. If God is for those who did you wrong, the first step to overcoming and forgiving is for you to accept God is for them and has a good plan for their lives. When we take this action in hearts we will position ourselves to be vindicated.
Here is a great question for us to ask ourselves. What does vindication look like in the New Covenant of grace we live in today? Is it God pouring out His anger through terrible events on those who come against us? Certainly not, God is still for them, too. To be vindicated is for God to make you a success, raise you up and reveal His favor on your life despite the judgment you are receiving from those who betrayed you. Always remember, people who feel the need to attack you to others are looking for validation from them in order to justify their actions. Do not join them, walk above it and allow God to do a work in the situation. You do not need validation from men because you have it though the shed blood of Jesus and His redemptive work.
When our hearts are grounded in this truth, it empowers us to not enter the fight of vindicating ourselves and allows God to do the battle. The battle will always be the Lords, if we allow Him. And He will do a much better job than us.
In Psalms 23 it says, “You (God) prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies…”
Take notice of a few things within this short scripture. First of all, God is the One who prepares a table for you, not you. He is the One who will make a feast for you to enjoy. Second, God does it in the presence of your enemies! Those who attack you will not be able to deny God’s favor on you. This is how God vindicates you! Third, God calls them your enemies, not His. Your enemies our not God’s enemies because He has just as much favor toward them as he does you. So why would God show that favor toward you and not them? If you will let things go, trust God and forgive them, this will position you to be vindicated. And last, God invites your enemies to the table with you. Why? God wants to use your example of forgiving them. God’s restoring and vindicating you is a message to them that they, too, can forgive and trust God. God is a Covenant God and is always into restoring relationships. When we forgive and allow God to do the vindicating, we also set the stage for people to see their wrongs in the situation. Many times they will then also forgive and sit at the table and feast together with us.
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Are you looking for a Gospel of grace church that preaches the finished work of Jesus? Do you enjoy ministries like Joseph Prince, Andrew Wommack, Lynn Hiles, Jim Richards, Ed Elliot, Andrew Farley or Creflo Dollar? If so, Reveal Church might be the perfect fit for you. Come join us Sunday mornings at our new time 10:30 am. We meet at Copper Stone Executive Business Center at 3632 Land O Lakes Blvd. Land O Lakes, FL. 34639. Children’s church is provided for all ages. Pastor Brian has been ministering the gospel of grace message since 1999, with powerful truths that will continue to empower you to walk out God’s best for your life as you stay at a place of rest in Christ. Come be a part of this powerful start up gospel of grace church and help us reach the Tampa Bay area with the message of the finished work of Christ. We look forward to seeing you this Sunday!